May 26, 2012

Things I'm Afraid to Tell You

Have you seen this movement?  The Decorated Cookie  posted a few links to other blogs doing this so I decided to check it out. The image above comes from Creature Comforts. I missed the whole Twitter frenzy on this. Guess I don't rate on Twitter ha ha. I didn't even know there was a "movement" until The Decorated Cookie posted a few links.  So I did my homework and read a bunch of blogs taking part in this movement.  After reading several posts on Things I'm Afraid to Tell You, I can understand why they didn't ask me to be a part of this movement. You'll see why if you keep reading.

Many of the posts talk about the same thing.
1. The perception that bloggers make a lot of money. We do? Well how come you all aren't sending me checks. :) I'm missing out. ha ha Where did that notion come from? I have never thought for a minute that any blogger out there makes a lot of money. I know I didn't start mine thinking I would make money. Would I like too? Sure, who wouldn't. Making a little extra to buy more party supplies would be great. Than I can share more parties with you :)
2. The burdens, stress and pressures of blogging. Ok, if it's become a burden,stressful and you're feeling pressure,  maybe you shouldn't be blogging anymore.  Um, didn't you start the blog for ...fun!
3. Blogs make people doubt what they have and the way they live.  Again, these thoughts have never crossed my mind. And why are you letting people you've never even met make you doubt what you have or the way you live? Don't you get enough of that out on the street?
4. There's a lot of crying going on out there. Again, why?

Why did I say I can understand why I wasn't asked to be part of this movement? Because I can't relate.  Ok, here goes, the "real" me (as if I haven't been the real me since starting this blog).
I just don't feel the pressure these other bloggers are speaking of.
If I don't feel like writing posts for a week it doesn't bother me. I don't feel stressed out.  Would I maybe lose a few people who read my blog, sure, but that's not going to stress me out. I don't feel burdened or pressured to write posts or stressed about it. Is my blog perfect, no. Do I spend hours, days writing up a post, no. I'm ok with that. If this blog was my sole income, you bet it would be more perfect. But it isn't and I refuse to let this blog become a burden or stress me out like so many other bloggers out there are feeling.

I understand that what many of these bloggers are talking about is the perfect parties featured on a lot of the blogs out there. The pressure to be perfect. Those of you that follow me though know that my parties are not perfect, I have no problems showing you my oopsies. My blog is not about perfect parties that look like they cost a fortune and the average person can't pull off.  My blogs all about just getting people to add a little fizzy to their get togethers. Who cares about perfect. I look at those same blogs too but I don't think, wow, I'll never be able to afford a party like that, my parties don't look that perfect. I think, oh cute, look at that idea I can tweak and make my own to incorporate into a party. Those perfect party blogs are like Vogue magazine to me. For fun. For a little escape indulgence. Not once do they make me feel inadequate or inferior. Did I mention I have a high self-esteem. Aka stuck up :) ha ha

And what's with all the crying? Goodness people, stop putting pressure on yourself. If you don't have time to write a blog every week, be a mom, work, keep the house clean etc etc no one cares but you. The real me is kinda blunt huh? It's who I am. Stuck up...remember ha ha.  I don't get upset when I don't have a lot of followers on here or Facebook like some bloggers do.  It doesn't bother me when someone defriends me on Facebook.  I am not defined by the number of followers I have. Nor do I get upset and cry or stress out because my blog isn't as amazing looking as some others, or my parties aren't so over the top amazing. I don't cry and stress out if I see someone who hasn't been blogging as long as me get a book deal or have more followers.  Last year was a really stressful emotional roller coaster of a year for me but I wasn't crying over it or have a break down. I'm a pretty strong person. Must be because I'm stuck up hee hee  Nor am I going to share it here. Not because I'm afraid to tell you but because it's personal and I didn't even share it all with my close friends.

My religious orientation, political beliefs, any tragedy that has hit my life, why would I share it here like so many other bloggers have during this movement? It's not because I'm afraid to tell you. I don't share it because this blog is about happiness and good times with family and friends. There's enough unhappiness out there in the news. Do you really want to read about it on a fun party blog too?

So you see, I can't really relate to this movement.  I'm not afraid to tell you anything. Nothing against all the bloggers that are participating in this movement. It's just not me.

Fire away.



16 comments :

  1. I hadn't heard of this movement and don't relate to it either. Although I am looking forward to reading more of your posts!

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    1. Thank you French Whisk. It's nice to know there's other bloggers out there who can't relate to this movement. Popping over to follow you :)

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  2. Really agree with you...blogging isn't worth crying about. If someone is crying about the pressures of blogging then that makes me think they must be lucky because they obviously don't have more stressful shit to deal with!

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    1. I appreciate your comment. Here Here! Women just tend to put so much unnecessary stress on themselves. It's sad really. Thank you for following and always look forward to your comments :)

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  3. Thanks for keeping it real Mrs. FIZZY! Indeed a strong woman you are and what a great quality that is. Thanks for keeping your blog fun,honest and fizzy!

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    1. Thank you! I'm often seen as stuck up and a B! but what people are seeing is confidence and probably wish they had more of it. If only I could pass some along :)
      I really appreciate the honest comments from all of you. Keep it fizzy :)

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  4. We had plenty to cry about this week and it had nothing to do with blogs or parties and I'm really glad you didn't write about it here. A party blog about *parties*? Done.

    ~TheMistressT

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    1. Yes we did. It would have been disrespectful to share it with the universe. To keeping things light and the party atmosphere rolling on :) Woo Hoo!!

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  5. Ok, I have to admit I knew nothing of this "movement" either until I saw a post by French Whisk on FB. I started reading through some of the other posts (not yours) and started to feel like an ambulance chaser or the person who slows down to get a look at the accident. Seriously, I am neither and if I have to share one thing that I am afraid to tell you it is this:
    I come to the internet to be entertained. None of that was entertaining! It made me feel really sad. Blogs, social media, the whole thing is supposed to be fun.
    Thanks for your honest post.

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    1. Oh Nicole, I felt the SAME way. You stated it perfectly, ambulance chaser or slowing down to see a wreck, perfectly said.
      Thank you for sharing that. I agree as well. Which is why I did this post. I kept reading and thinking, wait, blogs are suppose to be fun, entertainment. Ok, there are serious ones out there but, party blogs in my opinion should be fun :) Keeping it fizzy! :)

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  6. I haven't heard of it either. I agree blogging should be fun...I guess if you're trying to make tons of money from your blog or get people to buy your products because you are in the party profession -- you might feel pressure to throw the "perfect" party for advertising. In my opinion it's gotten totally out of hand...wanting to be featured on every blog out there for the attention. Setting up the perfect dessert table with every cake pop lined up...come on...like your kids really care?

    I throw one party a year- my son's and I go crazy because I love it. Honestly though he'd be happy with presents and cake. He doesn't need all the other stuff so I try not to go overboard but I figure I only get so much time before he grows out of it all. Since I don't have a business I don't feel any pressure.

    Who cares how much you blog- I'll still read your blog when you post!

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    1. Amy, I hear ya. I didn't start this to be featured on every blog there. In fact, I've never been featured and I'm ok with that. If I do get featured, bonus.

      Ha! I sometimes wonder what happened to simple kids parties myself.You're right, the kids don't notice all the time and effort and perfectness of a lot of the parties seen out there.

      Thank you for your thoughts :) I'm on the same page, as you can tell :)

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  7. Love Love Love this!!! I feel like we are blogging for all the same (RIGHT) reasons! Jenn, Elisa, and I don't make a dime on our blog. In fact, we probably spend more money on cupcakes than we really should. We don't ask for things to be given to us for free just to review (however, if offered we wouldn't refuse...). We are everyday girls who blog because we love sharing our cupcake adventures with everyone. If you wanna join us, great, if not, no biggie. Keep on partying it up Fizzy style! We all love it! :)

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    1. Oh Stacy, thank you! :) I know the feeling, I spend money on party supplies and don't get any of it paid for. I do it because I love throwing parties and if I can inspire just one person to add a little fizzy to their get together than YEAH!
      Always look forward to your cupcake adeventuers :)

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  8. I agree - to me, if your blog purpose is for parties - then it should be a happy place to indulge... if it's a personal blog styled to say whatever you want, whenever, then go for it! and agree - no passion should make you feel terrible - if it does, you are doing something wrong

    hugs!

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